Dating my husband while separated
We had no children at that time, but I was crushed, shocked, and despondent all the same.
Frankly, I never saw it coming and I’m typically pretty perceptive about these things, for goodness sake.
For women, it's more about the level of satisfaction in her relationship; if a woman is unhappy in her marriage, she's 2.6 times more likely to cheat.
Regardless of the reason, there's one thing that's certain: infidelity is devastating. "In many cases, it forces issues to the surface of a relationship that would have never otherwise been dealt with," says Kevin Hansen, author of RELATED: 10 Surprising Traits Men Who Cheat Have in Common "From the day I married my husband, I knew it was a mistake," says 50-year-old Elizabeth Smith.* "He was abusive, controlling and expected me to quit my job to make a home for him." A little over a year into the marriage, she began having an affair with a man that she worked with.
Silverman, Ph D, says if you're in an abusive relationship, deception isn't the best way to deal with it.
When my husband and I got married, we came up with a plan of attack for the next couple years.
I wasn't back in the States for more than a couple of weeks when he decided to call and tell me that he didn't want to change.
Granted, it wasn't a five-year-plan, as some couples do, but our two-year-plan made sense for us. While I worked toward our ultimate goal, he decided to take a back seat.